Once when my daughter to my hand while walking, the supervisor told me that I was not allowed to hold her hand for more than a certain time, and it felt terrible for me and her. Even though there is nothing in the court order that said such a thing, the supervisor just made that up as she went along.

I can see and understand how your children were hurt and resentful over the way they were being treated because mine felt the same way. It is an terrible way to abuse children, and the nanny should feel guilty over her behavior, but she probably does not. A lot of really sick, controlling people do these jobs, and even though they are hired and are supposed to have the best interest of the children in mind, they do not. It is all so phony and contrived that it makes a normal person mentally ill and sick over what is being done to their children.